Celebrate the Small Things 4: Humanize Bad Behavior #FridayFeeling

Fridays are all about celebrating the Small Things thanks to a weekly blog hop created by author Lexa Cain. Joint co-hosts this week are authors L.G. Keltner @ Writing Off The Edge Tonja Drecker @ Kidbits Blog The mission coincides with what I’m hoping to do with my own writing, inspire and focus on the light when those slippery shadows creep around our shoes. Want to sign up? Click Lexa Cain’s link to find out more.

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This week, I’ve tried to practice a good behavior and an old skill I learned in a previous job as a corporate trainer. When I don’t understand what someone does, I try to stop and think, “Why would a reasonable and rational person do what they do and say what they say?” It’s a question from resource material “Crucial Conversations” I used to facilitate to managers. I learned a lot about people.

Body language. Tone. Facial Expressions. Above all things, facial expression tells us a lot.

This week, I’m celebrating the almost end of an incredibly busy week. I’ve tried every day to make amends with past hurts in relationships. Especially when I’ve had to swallow my pride. I think watching my kids grow and how they interpret the wrongs that go on helps remind me every day of the miracle we’re gifted in each day. I also really love these Friday posts. Why? Because reflecting on the good is healing for the heart and soul.

My list of smiles this week include the following:
  • I finished all the decorations I needed to make for a retirement reception at work. It was a huge event. It takes weeks of organizing to make sure all 61 retirees were celebrated. I fluffed and fixed tons of vases of flowers with raffia, moss and little monarch butterflies.
  • I smiled at people this week I know had a few bad thoughts about me. I tried to say sweet things and worked extra hard and extra detailed to prove I am competent and capable. I don’t know if you have the same pet peeve I do, but I’d rather a person talk to the face instead of the back. My mother always told me though, shine brighter than the rain. You’ll feel better on the inside.
  • My daughter had her summer birthday in school. These lovely rainbow cupcakes made everyone smile the second they saw them. I didn’t get to taste one, but I can only imagine the smile it gave others on the inside who did.
  • A book signing Saturday the 13th! I’ll be at a Second Saturdays event in downtown Blue Springs. It’s a celebration of artists, writers, and craftspeople. Free music! I’ll be at the bookstore with the newest loveliest anthology just released, “Hero Lost: Mysteries of Death and Life.”

 

How about you? Did you have a great shiny moment this week? Do you try to smile when the world frowns?

 

It’s Friday! Yay! That’s reason to celebrate in my eyes.

About Erika Beebe

Author, dreamer, and a momma to a couple of wonderful kids, I try to live life everyday in hope and inspire others along my way.

Posted on May 12, 2017, in Uncategorized and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 22 Comments.

  1. My shining moment was watching my daughter on stage playing the violin with her 5th grade orchestra for their final concert of the year. It was a wonderful show.

    I’m also blogging today about Hero Lost!

  2. You just have to be better than they are!
    Good luck with the signing tomorrow.

  3. spunkonastick

    I hope it’s a really successful book signing. Hand out lots of bookmarks and talk to everyone. Roam the store with a book in your hand. If someone seems interested, hand it to them and run away. (I found that half the time, they end up buying it. LOL)

  4. It is a good thing to look back over your week and acknowledge the good things. We focus so much on the negative, we never give the good the credit it’s due.

    Mmm. Cupcakes…must be lunchtime.

  5. Wonderful celebrations! I hope you have a great book signing! And, that means I hope you have fun and enjoy it! To me, that’s the measure of success in a book signing.

  6. Wow, you had a great week. I love your positive attitude. The book signing is exciting. Have fun and enjoy the moment…..and Congratulations too!

  7. Suzanne Furness

    A positive attitude is so important isn’t it? I like the idea of giving someone a smile on the inside. Hope the book signing went well.

  8. Putting on a good front won’t necessarily make us better, but that behavior can play a hand in chipping away at the bad person inside of us. I can’t say I had any shining moments over the past week, but if something that I said or did has brightened the way for someone else and even if I’m not aware then I’ve brought some light to the world and that’s more important than how my actions made me feel.

    Best wishes with the book signing event.

    Arlee Bird
    Tossing It Out

  9. Hope the signing went well! I love that you were smiling at those people. What a lovely idea!

  10. I always smiled and tried to be nice to those who were saying mean things about me–it never seemed to work. I prefer to think that they’re going through life miserable in their meanness, and that’s payback enough!

  11. Ha! Some people are mean but it can’t be helped. Happy Mother’s Day!

  12. Wonderful list of smiles. I hope your book signing was great!

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