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Celebrate the Small Things 7: Build Your Mental Strength #FridayFeeling

Fridays are all about celebrating the Small Things thanks to a weekly blog hop created by author Lexa Cain. Joint co-hosts this week are authors L.G. Keltner @ Writing Off The Edge Tonja Drecker @ Kidbits Blog The mission coincides with what I’m hoping to do with my own writing, inspire and focus on the light when those slippery shadows creep around our shoes. Want to sign up? Click Lexa Cain’s link to find out more.

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Mental Strength takes an entirely different set of conditioning. Fears erupt. Calm has to be found. Emotion must be dealt with. Honestly, I’d rather hit the gym and tackle a new health regiment and up my weights than define a strategy to surf tsunami mental waters. We don’t always have a choice though, and in celebrating the small things this week, I have a few victory points to note as well as a few tips to make it through those rocky waters when you’d rather turn back and head to your own sandy warm beach.

What went well?

  • This week, I uncluttered my house to prepare for a move. Oh, I’m still packing as it never seems to end, but at least I’ve combed through the clothes, the baby toys, small bikes and old furniture. Good Will was my choice location to give away these unnecessary items. The best distraction from mental stress for me is to keep my hands busy.
  • I celebrated another birthday with my son. We went fishing with friends, then finished the evening in a game of kickball. Played a game of it lately with your own friends? It’s really freeing. Kick that ball as hard as you can and run and run and run …who cares if you get out. It’s great stress relief.
  • The end of the school year means the end of a stressful sprint for me in public relations. Since I work for a school district, I make events like high school graduation sparkle. Details are so important and you go over it, and over it again and pray you haven’t missed a thing.
  • I finished my synopsis for my new manuscript idea. Yay! Next is the detailed outline. Hopefully it will get done next week and I can finally begin the real writing work.
  • Lastly, I said “no” a couple of times instead of over committing myself. That is a huge step for me. I usually juggle a million things at once and what’s one more, right? Yikes!
  • And my biggest mental war? I still have yet to face it, but I’m planning my strategy with a few tips I found on Forbes.com and have included them below.

 

Tips.

  1.    Revisit your values and core beliefs. Down deep, what matters most to you, then make a point to remember those things. Forbes suggests to be wary of “never” or “always” thinking statements in your head.
  2. Think about what you can control and what aspect is actual worry. Divert your mind. Set goals and priorities. Make an effort to switch your mental thoughts to helpful actions and topics. What’s happening that’s good in your life? What small steps have you made to accomplish your dreams? Have you done one today? If not, why not try? And may I suggest a quick game of kickball? 🙂
  3. Replace negative thinking with positive action. Do something that makes you feel great. Write great quotes to inspire your mind and place them where you need them the most.
  4. “Practice tolerating discomfort,” a phrase I couldn’t reword. Who do you want to be? Why not try?
  5. Always end or begin your day with the good things, the reason I love this weekly post so much.

 

We made it. It’s Friday. And don’t forget …

 

Celebrate the Small Things 6: Faith Through Failure #FridayFeeling

Fridays are all about celebrating the Small Things thanks to a weekly blog hop created by author Lexa Cain. Joint co-hosts this week are authors L.G. Keltner @ Writing Off The Edge Tonja Drecker @ Kidbits Blog The mission coincides with what I’m hoping to do with my own writing, inspire and focus on the light when those slippery shadows creep around our shoes. Want to sign up? Click Lexa Cain’s link to find out more.

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Life inside of a child is a courageous place to be. This week as I watched my own children tackle their own separate challenges, I saw myself in my sweet little girl learning to ride a bike. With my son, I remembered the same feeling on the soccer field, waiting as the goalie in that net as the opposing team barreled my way with what seemed like an unstoppable force.

 

Who doesn’t want a perfect result the first time you try?

 

Courage is my word of the week. Faith, too. Courage is the driving power to move. Faith is the fuel behind it. As I watched my kids go through their own unique challenges, I also saw them practice both acts within themselves, and being the proud mom who I am, these are the moments I’m celebrating this week.

 

  1. The bike. It’s not easy to learn to balance and trust you can go as fast as you need to go and to stop when you really need to stop without hurting yourself.
  2. The soccer game. Being the last man standing on a team and facing a small band of others headed your way is really overwhelming. You want to strategize where that ball is going to land. You want to protect the goal and the team.

 

Success. My daughter conquered the bike. My son conquered the will to try again through the defeat. When he told me he wanted to play another season, I couldn’t help but glow on the inside.

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Celebrate the Small Things 5: Change is Scary. Try it Anyway #FridayFeeling

Fridays are all about celebrating the Small Things thanks to a weekly blog hop created by author Lexa Cain. Joint co-hosts this week are authors L.G. Keltner @ Writing Off The Edge Tonja Drecker @ Kidbits Blog The mission coincides with what I’m hoping to do with my own writing, inspire and focus on the light when those slippery shadows creep around our shoes. Want to sign up? Click Lexa Cain’s link to find out more.

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Change is a difficult task to swallow for some. We get comfortable. We’re afraid to rock the boat. We come up with multiple reasons why it won’t work and spend days and weeks thinking about it and wondering what-if. Then the string unravels and you make the choice, and hopefully, the pick was the chance to try.

Today, I’m celebrating a much-needed change in my mornings. One of my small kiddos is a morning bird. The smallest kiddo is the night owl. Morning moments and evening moments can be a challenge at times. But this week I dared to be different. I dared to establish three fast rules before the rest of the day gets the best of us.

  1. Get dressed.
  2. Brush your teeth.
  3. Eat your breakfast.

Pretty simple, right? In the past, I did these things, but not in an orderly fashion. But now that my kiddos know what to expect next, and after a couple of days, it worked! No one gets nearly as upset. It’s a happy dance out of the door, to school for the kids and to work for me.

So today, I am here to say, if you’re thinking about something different that may impact your life for the better but you’re not sure how to start or if you should … research it. Talk to folks who’ve tried it. You might be surprised.
I know I am.

 

Celebrate the Small Things 4: Humanize Bad Behavior #FridayFeeling

Fridays are all about celebrating the Small Things thanks to a weekly blog hop created by author Lexa Cain. Joint co-hosts this week are authors L.G. Keltner @ Writing Off The Edge Tonja Drecker @ Kidbits Blog The mission coincides with what I’m hoping to do with my own writing, inspire and focus on the light when those slippery shadows creep around our shoes. Want to sign up? Click Lexa Cain’s link to find out more.

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This week, I’ve tried to practice a good behavior and an old skill I learned in a previous job as a corporate trainer. When I don’t understand what someone does, I try to stop and think, “Why would a reasonable and rational person do what they do and say what they say?” It’s a question from resource material “Crucial Conversations” I used to facilitate to managers. I learned a lot about people.

Body language. Tone. Facial Expressions. Above all things, facial expression tells us a lot.

This week, I’m celebrating the almost end of an incredibly busy week. I’ve tried every day to make amends with past hurts in relationships. Especially when I’ve had to swallow my pride. I think watching my kids grow and how they interpret the wrongs that go on helps remind me every day of the miracle we’re gifted in each day. I also really love these Friday posts. Why? Because reflecting on the good is healing for the heart and soul.

My list of smiles this week include the following:
  • I finished all the decorations I needed to make for a retirement reception at work. It was a huge event. It takes weeks of organizing to make sure all 61 retirees were celebrated. I fluffed and fixed tons of vases of flowers with raffia, moss and little monarch butterflies.
  • I smiled at people this week I know had a few bad thoughts about me. I tried to say sweet things and worked extra hard and extra detailed to prove I am competent and capable. I don’t know if you have the same pet peeve I do, but I’d rather a person talk to the face instead of the back. My mother always told me though, shine brighter than the rain. You’ll feel better on the inside.
  • My daughter had her summer birthday in school. These lovely rainbow cupcakes made everyone smile the second they saw them. I didn’t get to taste one, but I can only imagine the smile it gave others on the inside who did.
  • A book signing Saturday the 13th! I’ll be at a Second Saturdays event in downtown Blue Springs. It’s a celebration of artists, writers, and craftspeople. Free music! I’ll be at the bookstore with the newest loveliest anthology just released, “Hero Lost: Mysteries of Death and Life.”

 

How about you? Did you have a great shiny moment this week? Do you try to smile when the world frowns?

 

It’s Friday! Yay! That’s reason to celebrate in my eyes.