Category Archives: Erika Beebe
Day 5: My Pet Peeves, Then and Now
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Imagine this…
…you have been standing in a really long line for at least thirty minutes. It’s your lunch break. You have to buy what is in your arms. It is the perfect thing and you drove forever to get to that store. Everyone’s cart is full. You are fidgety, shifting back and forth, staring at your watch, smiling at the people around you, when someone in a really nice suit is talking on their cell, looks at you, looks at the line—a cashier is suddenly free! It is your turn! You step forward and… they do that horrible thing they do. They cut in front of you…
…What do you do?
You decide to visit the gym. You have your perfect music play list to motivate you and help you work harder. You jump on your favorite cardio machine and you start to sweat. It is a fast interval moment, where you are pushing yourself and maybe you have closed your eyes so proud to be in that moment wanting to make it all the way…
And then…
….a stinky bomb sneaks up your nose and you gag and wince—and you just want to die it stinks so bad! Yes. A stinky fart so potent has silently bombed the whole gym and permanently stained your nostrils for the rest of your life…three times!
…What do you do?
You are at a party…
…Your favorite music is playing. The lights are amazing. You’re in your favorite outfit feeling pretty darn good about yourself. You meet a friend. Not someone close, but someone you respect, and they smile. You smile. They start to talk and you say something, but they interrupt. And then they’re talking some more and they just won’t stop talking about themselves. Minutes pass. It feels like hours and they’re still talking…
…What do you do?
You have had a really bad day at work. Traffic was a mess. You waited on the highway for a good hour. You get home. The kids are having fun. Dinner smells good. You take your shoes off, head upstairs and crunch a toy right under your foot! It burns! It stings! And then there’s the kitchen counter! You cleaned the whole thing just five minutes before and when you turn around, there’s a trail of bread crumbs like a mouse had just destroyed an entire loaf of bread….ack!
….What do you do?
Pet peeves make me laugh. Especially as I’m capturing some of them now. They seemed so important in the moment, but in looking back, they are kind of funny. Some pet peeves become big things. Some peeves are so big it distorts the way we can look at a person at times, but you know what? After I’ve had a chance to look mine over, I’ve come to a really great cloud nine moment. They are not so big. Well, maybe the line-cutting lady, but I did end up saying something to her, which resulted in an immediate apology and a hustle to the back of the line.
We all have our idiosyncrasies. We all have our moments where we just don’t make sense to someone else. And as I get older, it is becoming more about believing in doing the right thing by someone else. And sometimes I have to believe the best in someone else, because it is also the right thing to do. Maybe the lady on the cell who cut in line had a terrible moment in her life right then. Maybe the guy passing wind on the treadmill was so embarrassed he didn’t know what to do. That toy? That counter? I can live with that.
Because then I think, there are so many other wonderful things about people, so many things the people I love in my life share with me.
Erika
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Day Four: Skipping Ahead to Laughter and What it Means to Me
I had to get a drink of water.
It was Saturday night. I sat on the couch, sniffling with my Kleenex held to my nose, my brown furry blanket sprawled across my lap while my kiddos ran in circles in the living room, dancing to their dad, strumming his guitar.
I got up. He got up. I moved up the steps, and he turned to our two kids, smiling so big, his blue eyes sparkled. He strummed a made up song on the guitar, letting his voice carry away a hilarious tune starting something like, “Baby Bear, baby bear, likes to wear her stinky socks…”
…Laughter!
…Rolling laughter!
…Squeals of joy!
The three of them, my two-year-old princess, my four-year-old creative boy, and my fun loving computer husband sang and danced and made up lyrics on the spot! My heart was practically beaming inside with joy.
My husband let each character in our family star in their own verse: Daddy Bear, Simon Bear, Cyrus Bear (our dog) and then Mommy Bear, and we all became the brunt of a really funny song about something stinky; from socks, to underwear to anything we could think of!
…just like Smelly Cat from the sitcom Friends, when Phoebe captivated the coffee shop with her song and it went a little something like this…
“Smelly Cat…
Smelly Cat…
What are they feeding you…
Smelly Cat…
Smelly Cat…It’s not your fault…”
…And then she invites her friends to chime in with words helping create a community of fun in the coffee shop, much like the moment in my very own living room.
So the question about seriousness of life and humor begins and I think Audrey Hepburn sums it up best for me:
“I don’t take my life seriously, but I do take what I do – in my life – seriously -”
― Audrey Hepburn
I have been through a struggle in what it means to live and laugh, and then how to accept my serious side, because that’s part of me too. There’s this war inside of me between a carefree, wanting to skip through a field of daisies girl, and a side that says listen to me! Take me serious, please!
The point of today is how I’m learning to let go of seriousness and what laughter means to me. I think laughter is about letting go and living life and most of all, learning to laugh at myself again. Watching my husband and my two beautiful kids who have absolutely stolen my heart, they have no qualms with making fun of themselves in good times. That’s what I aim to go back to.
So laughter is what I strive for everyday. I want to make fun of myself in a good way, to laugh at the ridiculous things that sometimes fall out of my mouth without thinking. Like when the ice and snow storm hit, I said something about the power lines going down, a total blind and blonde moment. I forgot, power lines, are in the ground, Erika, not above it anymore, duh…
So don’t forget what it feels like to laugh at your own silliness. When you feel tense, when you feel like the world is sort of spiraling out of control, do something fast so your moment doesn’t drag you down. Have someone distract you. Remember something silly you did when you were little, something hilarious about yourself. Maybe call an old friend, your best friend. Let laughter change your mood. It works for me anyway—and of course post-its too. I am the post-it queen. LOL
Day 3 of Blog Challenge: Where Does Inspiration Come From?
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A memory from High School explains it best—Junior Year.
A fire alarm went off one cold and dreary day. I was in Seminar, a class where we designed our own projects through the year and like the nerd that I was, I think I wanted to learn some of the classics, reading novels and poetry, and trying to prep myself for some of the crazy tests to get into College.
The alarm screamed and I jumped up from the couch in the library taking off after my classmates already filing out of the door. Someone pushed it open and several of us stumbled backwards, suddenly smacked by a cold blast of wind. I looked at the sky. No sun. Thick gray clouds. And burr….
“Move!” Our teacher yelled.
So we did, and we huddled around the nearest wall trying to block that terrible crazy wind off our faces. I wrapped my arms around myself, shivering next to one of my friends’ in class, laughing and talking about our poems we were writing, when one of the really smart popular kids walked up to us. I knew her. I’d always wished I knew her better, but I was the quiet and shy type and I kept to myself a lot.
The popular girl squeezed in next to us with her back against the pale brick wall. “I just don’t get it,” she interrupted. “ I can’t be creative without, you know, a little help. How do you do it?”
My blonde friend and I looked at each other and I quickly said, “I don’t need anything to make me dream about stuff.” Because back then, I was sort of an all natural girl. I wore long sweaters, beat up jeans and tall clunky boots probably weighing more than I did. I didn’t like too much make-up, eye liner and mascara maybe, and my hair was really long and straight.
Speaking of hair, it was plastered to my face, and I brushed it straight back behind my ears. “I don’t worry about being creative,” I said. “ I just think. I wonder. And then I find a really great song, put my pencil on the paper and let my thoughts drift.”
If you asked me now, I’d probably say, a cup of coffee first. Then I listen to a song or find a fun quote to make me smile. I think the trick about inspiration, is knowing what makes you happy. Getting past the negative fog that swirls in our heads. Fighting it. Telling yourself you can do better. Then start with that activity that charges you, and let your attitude carry your actions through the rest of the day.
I read a really great article on inspiration. It’s short and dirty, the perfect kind of articles I like to read.
How to Feel Inspired When You’ve Lost Motivation
~By Hulbert Lee
Sometimes we get stuck in a rut. If you’re not a hundred percent passionate about your work, then it’s impossible to wake up everyday feeling motivated when you wake up. You might compare it to the ocean. Sometimes you’ll wake up feeling like a tsunami, other time you’ll feel like just barely drifting to shore. When you feel like drifting to the shore, understand that it doesn’t always have to feel like there’s no hope. You can still feel inspired when there’s no motivation.
1. Connecting the dots—Faith.
You have to use what you know in your past, and connect the dots in the present—Trust in You is huge! Even when nothing is working. Steve Jobs used Calligraphy as a model for his first Mac computer designs. I had no clue, but how awesome is that?
2. Allowing your environment to influence your mood.
Know when you feel inspired naturally. For me? Morning times. First thing after a cup of coffee. How about your work space? Does it inspire you to think? Make your space your own to allow creativity in.
3. Don’t work so hard.
This is my number one lesson in life. I overwork things to death and then I lose the heart. When I’m writing, I have to let go of perfection. Then I go back over it, reshape my sentences, and drop in the links. If I try too hard to make it perfect in the beginning, I always ALWAYS fail. Don’t force anything, a sheer indicator that you might be working too hard. I believe, if you set yourself up for success in the beginning, clear your head, get your heart right, work in an environment that makes you happy, great work and inspiration will come to you.








