IWSG POST VII: Does it make you feel alive?
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This month, I’m thinking about passion. My son sparked the topic. And the story goes something along the lines as this…
“I can’t do it.”
“It’s too hard.”
“Can I be done yet?”
Familiar comments I’ve heard my 7-year old son say more times out loud than I can count on both hands and feet. From spelling, to pressure point lessons in karate, to memorizing piano stanzas, even triple digit subtraction problems he’s learning about in second grade.
“When can I be done?” He asks me, with those big brown pleading eyes.
I always stop and take a breath. I make eye contact. “Why?” I ask.
“Because, it’s hard mom.”
I remember the first moment we talked about it. I knew his fears were getting the best of him. He’s a perfectionist like me. He worries like me. And at times he’s more concerned in how everyone else is getting along with each other, than with him. My stance is consistent. It’s always something along the lines as, “Everything you start is challenging. You start it, it feels hard because it’s new, then you practice, and you practice some more. Suddenly it gets easier. Then something else harder comes along and you work some more.”
This spring he’s asked to play baseball. Inside, I was secretly cartwheeling. I encourage sports. I think it teaches teamwork, communication, and how we all have our strengths to share. And the fact that he asked to play this spring let me know something about the sport triggered a desire, a possible passion.
His first baseball practice came and went. I sat outside the fence in the grass watching the roaring wind blow dirt in his face. He ran the field, did push ups, jumping jacks and met each grounder with a little more stopping power.
A day passed. I picked him up from school and asked him, “Did you like your first practice?”
His eyes lit up. He said, “I loved it.”
‘What did you love the most?”
He said, “What the coaches taught me in practice. I liked learning all of those things.”
For once, he didn’t say, “Mom, it’s too hard. I can’t do it.” He said, “Mom, I love it.”
My son inspired me this week. Then I found these great words, toodling (not sure it’s a word) around on pinterest. I couldn’t find a quoted source, so I popped the words into a photo my fiance captured.
They seemed perfect. As a writer, I’ve had people tell me, what I want is almost too hard to do. True, I don’t have all the time in the world. Life gets away from me at times.
But also true is this:
What if the hard stuff makes you feel more alive?
Then I wonder, can you picture your life without it?
So that’s my post for today. I don’t really have a question, unless you’d like to share you’re turning point, that moment you knew writing made you feel so alive.
My words of encouragement are to just go for it. Do it at your pace, your time. And never let the words of others deter you from your own perfect path.
Before I go, I want to say thank you also, to this April’s Co-Hosts:
Christopher D. Votey
Posted on April 6, 2016, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. 20 Comments.
When things get hard I tend to procrastinate. But someday, I will tackle whatever it is.
Thank you Tamara. I am the same way. I appreciate you stopping in and sharing 🙂
I love it when we learn from our kids. Lots of wisdom in there. As long as I love what I’m doing, the hard stuff is just part and parcel of the task. It’s a bump in the road and I know once I’m over it, the road smooths out again 🙂
Thank you so much for stopping in today. My kids inspire me so much and yes, the road has plenty of smooth sections as well as an occasional bump along the way, but it’s the destination that counts and the promise of dreams as we are driving that way. 🙂
Such an awesome thought. Thank you for that. It’s so easy to get bogged down and forget that life is supposed to be joyful. What is it that gets me electrified? Music. Good books. My family. Things to focus on, eh?
I try to keep in mind hard things are worth doing and there is a sense of accomplishment when they are done. Not so easy to do though. 🙂
Anna from elements of emaginette
Wonderful quote! And when we find our passion, when we live our passion, we are truly alive. Even if it’s hard. 🙂
I thought so too Madeline. I think that’s exactly what sums up my philosophy in life and why I hold on to positive vibes no matter the circumstance. Filling ourselves with our own passions helps us get through anything. 🙂
Your son found that special thing – challenging and yet rewarding. Hope he sticks with it.
Thank you Alex. 🙂 Me too.
Wonderful post! It’s awesome your son has found his special thing. My son is just going on six and hasn’t found his yet. I’ve always known mine has been writing, though. It’s so tough sometimes, but totally worth it. 🙂
I am like you Christine. I have known since I was in first grade writing was just me. I hope your son has fun along the way 🙂
Great advice, for both writing and life! Also, when we accomplish the hard things we feel so much more successful for it.
Thank you Morgan and I appreciate you stopping in.
There’s a great scene from “A League of Their Own” I think of when you say keep the hard stuff close to you.
Jimmy Dugan: This is chickenshit, Dottie, if you want to go back to Oregon and make a hundred babies, great, I’m in no position to tell anyone how to live. But sneaking out like this, quitting, you’ll regret it for the rest of your life. Baseball is what gets inside you. It’s what lights you up, you can’t deny that.
Dottie Hinson: It just got too hard.
Jimmy Dugan: It’s supposed to be hard. If it wasn’t hard, everyone would do it. The hard… is what makes it great.
And the fact the writing is hard and I released books, is what makes what I do so great, even if very few people can understand that, I understand that.
Thank you so much for posting this! I haven’t seen that movie in years and I loved it! I agree, finally getting to the point where you see your time and efforts paying off feels so great. I can’t wait to get to that stage again, too. I appreciate you stopping in.
Thank you for commenting on my blog.
Hi Erika, children are a big source of inspiration. Glad your son is enjoying baseball. I like the word toodling 🙂
Thank you for stopping in Rachna. I love watching my kids so much and listening to how they reason. It is inspiring. They’re big bright eyes and hearts are too.
Ha, ha, I ‘ve heard those types of words from my son, too. He gets frustrated when he can’t be good at something right away. I keep telling him that the more he practices, the better he’ll get at it, and the more satisfaction he’ll feel when he succeeds.
That’s wonderful that your son is excited about baseball. My son’s passion is car racing.
Love the quote and photo and the inspirational words. And I think toodling is a great word.