I Love Creatures of the Night–Just Not In My House

I was up late working on the next chapter in my book, sitting at the kitchen table and staring at my laptop. Really into it, I leaned in, typing the perfect sentence down, and reading it quietly to myself as I went along.

Something stirred from across the room.

I knew it wasn’t the dog. Cyrus had already retired for the night, snuggled up in his blanket right next to my bed. I stole a quick glance and I almost screamed!

The brave little criminal came running across the floor, straight at me!

I jumped up and ran right after it. Don’t ask me what the heck was going through my mind at the time. Surely I couldn’t have caught it and wrestled it out of the front door with my bare hands. But at that point, I don’t think reason was anywhere close to floating to the front of my brain.

The mouse dove for the cabinets, I dropped to my knees and slid right after it. It was just gone.

Gerr…

It’s not that I don’t like mice. I do. They’re cute with little button eyes and twitchy noses. I’ve had quite a few as pets growing up. But wild uninvited mice in the house? No way. I know they serve a purpose in nature, just not in my house. Lots of germs, stealing bits of food in the night and leaving their….well, you know what I mean.

So! We loaded up a couple of wood mouse traps. Nothing after two weeks!

The little criminal figured out how to steal the peanut butter right off those traps! I made another trip to the hardware store and swore, this time, these traps—well, the mouse wouldn’t get away.

So now we’re at Tuesday morning, today.

I got up like usual. My son woke up and slipped into my bed, catching a few minutes of mickey mouse while my husband and I got ready for work. I got the little one up and we were all ready to head out the door when I thought, oh crap. I forgot to check my traps.
Already a few minutes late, I checked two of the four traps. And when I got to number 3, I almost screamed again! It was there!

In that split second I felt two things: gut instinct, sadness of course. And then I did a little happy dance.

I hustled my son out of the kitchen after screaming, “we got the mouse!”

He said, “let me see mom!”

I diverted his attention and asked him to go watch the dog and I shoveled the mouse in the trash. Then I took out the trash with the mouse carefully tucked inside, and I came back into the house.

“Can I see the mouse, mom?” He asked again, because he’d been so excited about trapping the mouse. He’d even pulled out all of his stuffed animals and built a “Dinosaur mousetrap” in the kitchen, in front of the fridge, just so he could be a big helper.

In that moment I could have done a couple of things: but gut instinct told me, he’s not ready for the truth and neither am I yet. So I told him, “Sweetie, I had to let him out fast before he got away. I’m sorry. But now he’s playing with his friends. Are you ready to go play with your friends at school?”

He smiled, and lit up with excitement. “Yes mom, I can’t wait to see Nick!”

So long story short. We had an unwanted criminal lurking in the dark. We caught him. My son was a part of the mystery, until the very end. I diverted his attention with a little white lie. I feel bad about that. But I wasn’t really ready to explain. Maybe it wasn’t good not to tell him the truth, hopefully it wasn’t bad, but in the moment I had to decide if he was old enough to understand why we had to hurt the mouse in order to catch him. 

Is it selfish to want my son to go off and have a really good day? Maybe a little. But when facing two evils, I had to pick the better one in that moment.

I know someday he’ll be ready, but just not yet.

Good friends are the best inspiration

I’ve always known something about myself: I rely heavily on the people I trust.
They get us through some of the most difficult stuff. And most importantly—they almost know us better than we know ourselves at times, which means, when we’re feeling our worst, they can show us a way back to our best.
My best friend T, well, I’ve known her since I was six. We used to live across the street from each other, then life got in the way and she moved—then I moved, but we’ve always managed to keep in touch. I used to drive thirty minutes to watch her play basketball in high school. She was the one who took me skiing down my first mountain (a slow sweaty two hour run—sorry T )  We roomed together in college and I’d wake her up early, being the crazy morning person that I am. I’d make her some crazy breakfast concoction, definitely without eggs, all I ever wanted to do when I felt down was hear her laugh. 
So when the world gets tough and I start to think how easy it would be just to crawl in my bed and hide–I don’t. Instead I call my best friends. I spend time reconnecting with what matters most because that’s what my friends do for me. 
Good friends give us hope again. They can lend us a little energy when we need it. And the very best part is I know, I will always get to the bottom of my problems when I turn to those I trust the most.
  

Sometimes the answers come when we aren’t thinking

Shut your eyes—stop looking for a second—let yourself feel your way to an answer.
Some of my best work happens when I’m not planning for any outcome in particular.  I’m walking down the sidewalk. My brain is spinning a million miles an hour. I stumble over my shoe. I trip over a crack in the pavement. Whatever happens, it happens enough to jostle my brain and wipe it clean for two seconds.  
Those two seconds of complete silence are miracles, because when I come back to reality, I always meet something that propels me forward. I see my dreams clearer and I have a new perspective I’d simply been thinking too hard to see with my eyes.
I guess I’m still so tickled tonight, because I’ve found two great people who are helping me reach my dreams. I found them by accident. I found them when I wasn’t thinking. 

Feeling Like A Hero

“There’s no need to fear, Underdog is here!”

I admit it. I dressed up as Underdog for Halloween when I was little. Twice. I would have made it a third time too, had the mask not snapped.

I loved Underdog. I could put on a blue cape, a mask, and pretend to soar away through the sky, saving my toys, my animals and all my neighborhood friends from potential peril. I felt strong. I felt important.

But now I look back and I realize, who needs a cape to feel this way?

You’re heart makes you a hero. You’re thoughts and actions make you a hero. Of course, you need a dusting of courage to take off from the ground, but it’s just a little dust. ;0)

So now that I’m older, my favorite kind of hero is the one who doesn’t think they are. Because those people have the true hearts and best interests of others in mind. And now that I really see the world and I know what’s important, I also realize you—anyone—has probably already been one.

To the moms and dads out there, maybe all it takes is patching up a skinned knee, or fixing that perfect dinner to fill the bellies in your family. Making something ordinary into something fun and exciting, like helping clean up a room or practice a sport, and maybe just being there when your kids are doing homework.

To a grandma or grandpa, maybe all those evenings you spend with your grandkids are just what everyone needs: a moment when you made the kids feeling special—a moment when the parents had a fantastic break to claim their sanity—maybe all you did was share part of you in a story or a lesson and you taught something different.

To a coworker—well, maybe you stuck up for someone in a meeting. Maybe you helped brainstorm and took an idea and built a project with someone. Maybe it was a nice email thanking someone else for their hard work.

To a boss—maybe you threw yourself out there and shared a few mistakes when someone else was feeling bad about their work.

To a friend—you were just there when someone needed you.

Moments like these make you a superhero to someone. You are important. You rescue others from peril, whether you know it or not.

It’s the little things that matter. Really. You’ve helped someone else reach their dreams and they may not have been able to make it happen without just a little nudge.

Thank you.