Why You Should Celebrate You #IWSG #WednesdayMotivation
[I wrote this post as a member of the Insecure Writer’s Support Group where we share our worries and also offer support and encouragement to each other on the first Wednesday of every month. If you’re a writer like me and you’re looking for a bit of support, you can click the link and sign up here]
This month’s awesome hosts are: Mary Aalgaard,Bish Denham,Jennifer Hawes,Diane Burton, and Gwen Gardner!
And thank you to founder Alex J. Cavaugh 🙂
Years ago, I met someone at work who wasn’t excited about anything.
I sat with her in a conference room, trying to help her imagine what life might be like at work if she could just plan out all the ways she could take control of her tasks, her work life.
Then the tears came. She grabbed a box of kleenex and meekly said, “I can’t. I don’t want to be here. ”
She went on to say she wasn’t living her dreams or the life she really wanted. She felt out of control.
I was much younger then. I didn’t understand at first. But now I do.
Almost twelve years ago, I set a very big goal for myself. I decided I wanted to finally address the passion I’d harbored all my life and had ignored. Writing.
I didn’t know how to get started or what the steps to achieve my dream might look like. I had no formal training, and barely a friend who loved creative writing and would commit to the process the way I tend to commit to things. What I did have though, was a very big idea, and I knew the best place to get started was to first get up. Every day. And think or write or read for at least an hour. I wrote and planned with a fiery fury.
I finished that first book. I also learned that the first book isn’t always as great as we think it will be and I cried. And then I realized something, after the gentle coaxing of my mother and my devoted friends. I’d finished something huge. I started somewhere, and I used everything in my power in each moment to finish that first huge task. They were right. I needed to celebrate that, and bought myself a new book, and let myself disappear into the story for several days, letting go of my own goals for a brief period of time. I found my smile again, and the will to keep trying.
Today, I’m still not where I want to be. But I celebrate. Then I work. Then I celebrate some more.
This month’s IWSG question asked: “How do you celebrate when you achiever a writing goal / finish a story?”
I may have taken a different route to answer the question, but I think the important thing we all should do when we celebrate is to do whatever makes our hearts feel good. We walk taller, smile brighter and find that joy or light again within ourselves. It’s the best way I know how to make it through the tough days. And that’s exactly what I showed the lady I worked with back then. We may not be able to influence where we are in a present moment, but every moment has potential and we can influence how we feel about it and work to change it. Don’t forget to celebrate that.
Posted on March 7, 2018, in Uncategorized and tagged Celebrate You, Cloud Nine Girl, Erika Beebe. Bookmark the permalink. 27 Comments.
let’s celebrate this day and your great post.We have enough reasons every day for celebration, but somehow we tend to concentrate on bad things. You wrote a book .Wow, that is something, you will left something behind. Let’s celebrate that.
Thank you Ben. I truly appreciate your encouragement 🙂
I really feel for that person at your job. I’ve been there, feeling like I’m stuck somewhere I never want to be in in the first place. That’s one of the big reasons I keep writing, because I know what it’s like to be stuck doing something you don’t love, and I don’t want to go back to that.
Congratulations on finishing a book. Many people talk about it, few actually do it. Celebrate in big and small ways whenever you feel success, and keep writing and exploring.
Mary at Play off the Page
I truly appreciate you encouragement Mary.
Glad you learned early to follow your dream. So many are just existing, dreamless. You still have hope!
You accomplished your plan! So awesome! I don’t know too many people outside of the writing community that have a log-term goal and work at it. Most people drift or are satisfied doing small things.
I don’t think I celebrate finishing a book anymore, which is sad. When my first book was published, I bought an expensive (for me) bracelet that tied into my book’s theme. I’ll have to think about what I should do to celebrate my last book. You’re right, it’s a huge accomplishment and should be recognized.
Thanks for sharing your journey.
Yes! This is so true and so beautiful!
When I finished my first self-published book, I had this fear that it wasn’t perfect (it wasn’t), and instead of celebrating, I cowered for a week or two. My family took me out to dinner and bragged to the wait-staff about my accomplishments and I slumped in my seat, embarrassed.
No more of that. I celebrate every little bit now.
I think you have a lovely supportive family! I do not like public recognition either so I don’t blame you.
Happy writing my friend 🙂
When I first started writing, I loved it. Then I pressured myself to make it “work” and I still liked it, but it didn’t bring me the usual joy. Then my son asked me if I thought someone like Edgar Allen Poe or Ernest Hemingway would quit writing if they couldn’t get the publishing world to acknowledge them. That was my eye opener. If you love something, do it. As writers, we get to be eternal dreamers and optimists as long as we are writing for the love of the story. That beats crying over life any day!
Wow! Your son is brilliant. I hadn’t thought of that either … and now a few other names come to mind too … those famous painters who never made any money until after they had passed. We do need to follow our dreams and thank you so much for your words of encouragement Elizabeth. I truly appreciate them 🙂
“I’m still not where I want to be. But I celebrate. Then I work. Then I celebrate some more.” How boring life would be if we ever did get to where we want to be. I think, if I finally arrive at “where I want to be,” I’ll have changed so much from the journey that I’ll have somewhere new I want to be. Thanks for the post, and happy writing to you. 🙂
Thank you for your sweet thoughts Kathy. I do agree, life gives us lots of unexpected adventures. I wish you much success on your journey 🙂
Great post! Very inspirational and so true. We can’t always (or even often) change our lives, but we can definitely adjust our attitude and be grateful for small things. Even simply being alive is worth celebrating. Beats the crap out of the alternative, doesn’t it?
Thank you so much Olga. Our attitude is everything and every little victory is so important. Yes, let’s love life every day 🙂
It takes courage to embrace our dreams, but if we don’t we’ll never know if we could actually attain them. Good for you for doing taking that leap.
This is such an encouraging and uplifting post. I love it. It’s so important to recognize our achievements, even the little ones.
It’s inspiring to see you pursuing your dream!
Thank you so much Loni 🙂
You always write such inspirational posts. Thanks for the encouragement 🙂
Thank you so much Ellen 🙂
Your posts always put me in a better place than I was when I started reading it. 🙂
Thank you Raimey. I truly appreciate your sweet thoughts 🙂
Good for you finishing your book. I have yet to do that. Bravo, Erika! I agree with everyone. This is a wonderful post!
Thank you Victoria. I truly appreciate you stopping in today and Sharing your thoughts with me 🙂
Isn’t it true that the best things have to be worked for? I am chasing my dream of publication and like you I think it is important to hold onto our hopes and dreams. Well done for finishing the book, feel proud and celebrate. Wishing you all the very best with your writing.
Thank you so much Suzanne 🙂