Feedback can rock your dreams in a good way

The most important word in my life is hope. It’s the feeling I hang on to when I wake up. It’s the hand that comforts me when I feel weak.

I take a breath and I feel it. It’s what I do. It’s who I am. And today I felt it surge up so strong I’m practically doing pull ups from the ceiling…

…so what happened? I received a couple of awesome emails—the feedback type. They built up my strengths. They told me ways to improve. I love this stuff. I love feedback when it’s both honest and kind. Not only was it real and true and extremely helpful, but I value the time these individuals spent going over my work.

Now I realize some feedback is hurtful. When I feel upset I have to stop myself and ask, what do I think they meant by this?

Are they trying to be helpful? Did the person maybe have a bad day? Or maybe, I’m the one having a bad day. In any case, I try to turn my thoughts around and make it less about me or them, and take a hard look at my work. That way, I won’t feel so upset.

And after my last post, we all know I hate making mistakes. Even though I really know we all make them and they happen all the time. This is where hope steps in. Hope lets me know I can make mistakes. Hope let’s me know we all make them. Hope gives me the opportunity to change and be better and different the next time. And I know in my heart that feedback is the only way I know how to get better.

And what did I do as a result of such awesome feedback?

I revisited one major goal and I tweaked the deadline, bringing me another step closer to my dream.

So my point for today?

Maybe you had a bad day. Maybe nothing happened to lift you up and maybe even, someone tore you down.

Take a second. Decide what you want. Pick actions and move in ways that will get you there. Take back your power. And maybe tomorrow will be better. Maybe you’ll find a clue and the light will miraculously burn so bright you can feel it everywhere you step.

“We are all in the gutter but some of us are looking at the stars.” Oscar Wilde

About Erika Beebe

Author, dreamer, and a momma to a couple of wonderful kids, I try to live life everyday in hope and inspire others along my way.

Posted on March 27, 2012, in action, Dreams, feedback, hope, identity, love yourself. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

  1. You have NO idea how much I needed these words today! I don't like making mistakes. I don't like not knowing how to do something to move me forward with a project, task, or closer to my dreams. I'm so open to feedback because I want to be the best version of myself! But when it's presented in a harsh manner (or what feels harsh to me) it hurts. Especially when it calls out what I'm already beating myself up over. I try not to do that, but it happens. I feel like the wind has been knocked out of my sails and it's hard to catch my breath. But, I get up, think about how they meant it in their heart, and usually I'm good. This week's been full of mistakes, frustrations, anger, and tears for me. But this really speaks to what I've struggled with… so thank you!!Most of all, I LOVE the Oscar Wilde quote!!!

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